One thing is certain – smiles never go up in price or
down in value. Life is like a mirror. If you frown at it, it frowns
back. If you smile, it returns the greeting.
One thing particularly
pleases me while visiting USA. As I walk
ed the pavements of the small
suburban town where our son lives, passing women almost invariably
reward with a smile when I smile at them – most smiles that way are
started by another smile. Maybe, I am a smallish man in my seventies,
with an unthreatening demeanour. Passing men muttering "Good Day" are
welcome but the really satisfying part comes when women, young and old,
pushing prams or carrying groceries, complete strangers, smile back at
you in greeting.
Note that people don’t smile in my own country or
elsewhere. But Americans smiling so often and so easily may well have
something to do with their history and tradition.
That country has no rigid class structure or caste
system. The American smile is a democratic version of a courtesy or
doffed hat. Every stranger is deemed a potential equal. People getting
better teeth could be a plus factor. Bad teeth do discourage smiling.
Smiles are commonly associated with joy, relief, and
amusement. But smiles are by no means limited to the expression of
positive emotions. People in different cultures smile when frightened,
embarrassed, angry or miserable. With Japanese, for instance, a smile is
often used to hide pain or sorrow.
Smile – one of the most ambiguous human expression
involving 26 facial muscles – conveys a thousand different meanings,
says the anatomist Charles Bell.
Psychologist Paul Ekman, the head of the University
of California’s Human Interaction Lab, has actually identified 18
distinct types of smiles. There are joyous smiles, dampened smiles,
compliance smiles, flirtatious smiles, and so on.
The smile of true merriment is characterized by
heightened circulation, and the employment of two major facial muscles;
of the lower face and the skin crinkles around the eyes. In social
smiles, not backed by an actual state of happiness, often only the lower
facial muscles come into play.
True smiles last between two-thirds of a second and
four seconds, depending upon intensity. But false smiles often linger
longer, like awkward guests after a party. Since these smiles lack an
authentic inner prompt, we don’t know when to retire them – felt smiles
fade away naturally. In fact any expression over ten seconds long, and
most over five, are probably false. And the smile that arrives too early
or late is probably an imposter.
And ‘smiles’ happens to be ‘longest’ word in English
language; there’s a ‘mile’ between the first and the last letter.
Desmond Morris in Babywatching has a chapter on baby smiles. The
general, unselective smile, he says, arrives at about four weeks of age.
It is apt to be offered to any adult human face brought close to the
baby’s face.
Specific smiling – directed at faces of the loved
ones – comes between five to six months. It is this uncontrollable
honesty that makes the specific smile to the loved parents so immensely
rewarding.
Morris makes out that we are genetically engineered
to smile. Even born-blind babies smile, though not as much as sighted
ones. While the monkey baby can cling to its mother’s body for comfort,
the human infant has no such ability. It makes up by winsome smiles to
keep its mother close.
Smiling for women is a far more complex affair than
with men. There is more social pressure on today’s women to smile.
This has not been always so. Actually social laws
governing women’s smiles almost stand reversed. For centuries women were
discouraged from displaying animation or indulging in immoderate
laughter. No wonder, most medieval portrait paintings of women show them
devoid of any responsive expression: Mona Lisa perhaps the sole
exception with her enigmatic smile.
By the nineteenth century, Western culture turned the
smile, originally a bond shared between inmates, into a socially
required display. This started the popular image of a perpetually
smiling female. Woe to a secretary, a receptionist, a waitress, an
airline attendant, or a salesgirl who is deemed deficient in the
department of smiling to customers, clients and bosses. A smiling public
appearance gives proof that she has no problems to content with – no
kids sick, no sleep lost, no private tenseness or tension. In fact if
someone isn’t smiling for a noticeable stretch of time, people tend to
enquire for a noticeable stretch of time, people tend to enquire if
anything was wrong. Only women athletes can stay unsmiling; sweating,
reaching out, pushing themselves. The ideal, of course, is a spontaneous
smile that is truly her own, to smile according to what she felt, and
not according to what someone else expected of her.